gender stuff, kink
Finding myself at a slightly uncomfortable point of androgyny(?) where sufficiently queer people are seemingly willing to fudge their stated binary gender preferences as long as it looks like I'm gonna dom them
gender stuff, ffxiv, goof
Here's the deal; if you're not attracted to the Final Fantasy bunny boys, I don't think you'll be attracted to me
Not because I match the aesthetic of the bunny boys or anything, I just don't know what we'd have in common at that point
gender is bad, vent
Honestly, it's more than slightly uncomfortable, I hate it, having to sit with the fact that their interest in me is conditional on my success at a performance I don't fuckin care about
But! Nobody listens when I tell them not to do that. What can you do 🤷
gender stuff, kink
@HabitEXE My orientation is not unattached from the gender binary, but for those outside the binary I tend to take things on a case-by-case basis. It seems pointless to have a blanket preference, considering how diverse non-binary folk are.
@HabitEXE I can see the appeal of bunny boys, but I'd definitely want to dom/top rather than sub. 😄
gender stuff, kink, slight vent
Option 1: I continue not questioning the stated gender preferences of people who approach me even when those preferences do not include me, because it's not my business to tell people who they're supposed to be attracted to, even if that does lead to me sitting uncomfortably with the knowledge that they will likely continue examining me through the lens of gender every moment we spend together
Option 2: The same thing but I keep a bag of tomatoes nearby, so if someone tries to gender me I can throw tomatoes at them