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It's very hard to feel comfortable replying to people on here (including replying to replies on my posts) when I know that people have things they don't want to see in replies

Which I know is a thing because they've said so, and I have a bunch of things I don't want to see in replies

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Like, as best I can tell, people don't like it when they get replies with:
- Jokes
- Advice
- Answers to questions
- Opinions of any kind
Especially from people they don't know, and I know like maybe a couple of you, so

Which, in terms of like, interacting without trying to start an entire conversation on a website that doesn't support it, leaves very little

So, like, how exactly am I supposed to use this website to get to know people enough to not be a 'reply guy' or whatever

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For the record (I might pin this later) the kinds of replies that piss me off are, like

- 'actually I wouldn't enjoy this' (I don't care)
- 'this would be unsafe if you didn't do it safely' (no shit)
- long chains of people flirting with each other in my replies

But, like, those are either trying to shut down whatever I'm saying for no reason, or just filling my notifications with something that doesn't involve me

If someone cracks a joke and it's not funny or I don't get it, like... nbd? Doesn't put me out any, and it's nice to like, inspire something

And if someone's giving me advice, it's an attempt to help. Some folks are really bad or self- serving about it, but idk? It's not like, an insult.

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Idk. All I really do on here is sling posts into the void. It feels like trying to do anything else would just irritate people, so like... I'm just not gonna

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@HabitEXE I've seen people using "unsolicited advice" as a cw and people seem to like that a lot?

With jokes it tends to be a case of, can you read the tone of the original post? if the original post seems jokey you can joke with it. if it seems serious in a sad or angry way, probably do not joke with it. If you can't tell, "i thought of a joke about this but idk if joking about this is okay with you, can i?" is not a bad way to go

(I am pretty open to jokes in almost all cases, fwiw.)

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@monsterblue I've seen it too, I just don't see what it is about advice that is so universally aggravating. I respect it, I just don't get it

Keeping jokes to appropriate times is fine, I get that, but like, it seems like people have issues with replies that they don't personally find amusing too? Obviously not every joke is gonna land but again I don't see that as insulting

Idk. I appreciate the tip, tho, like, definitely stuff I can do

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@HabitEXE The advice thing I think is like, a lot of people get asked the same thing over again, because a well-meaning person decided to chip in with something very basic that works for them. They just want to help, but if you've been struggling with something for long enough you've probably thought of all the easy answers, and it can suck to have to keep repeating the same answers over and over

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@HabitEXE I'm really glad I could help!

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@HabitEXE I just can't. I tend to preemptively mute the people who go on rants about people having the audacity to respond to them (these are usually the same people who insist on making every single one of their posts Public). I don't have the energy for that kind of self righteousness anymore.

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@HabitEXE idk if this will be helpful or leaning to exactly the kind of behavior that you were describing as potentially problematic. But i just wanted to say in the few months ive been on here and my main, ive enjoyed seeing your thrown out into the void posts and havent personally seen any issues with the way you do stuff. Hope this is more the helpful side tho 👋

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@HabitEXE i want all the jokes
and all the advice
Like seriously I'm used to never getting answers to questions or advice on things when I bring them up and when I do it's honestly the most refreshing thing in the world because... someone cares enough to try and help aaa!!
But I dunno I'm hardly around on this... website? these days.

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@HabitEXE I’m honestly a bit unsure of how to respond to this. Speaking from my own point of view, the point of these sites is to talk with each other and be social; and part of the risk of talking with people and being social is that they won’t like what you say (or vice-versa). But I don’t think the answer to that is to pussyfoot your way around other people’s butthurt.

You have little to no control over how other people will respond to your genuine attempts to connect, so why hold yourself responsible for that? If someone starts behaving like a reactive little blowhard, muting or blocking them works pretty well in my experience. While we all have a social responsibility to be effective communicators, no-one is obligated to put up with someone else’s poor social behaviour.

So, tl;dr, I’d humbly suggest you just ignore, mute, or block the people who refuse to behave like social adults when you happen to stumble onto them. 🤷🏽‍♂️

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@HabitEXE Maybe I’m not fully understanding your issue though 🤔

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@lightclaws No, I get what you're saying. I'll think about it, thanks

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@HabitEXE Also, I think your posts are usually pretty fun, so I’d encourage you to simply lean into yourself more and worry about what others think of you a bit less. Being considerate is commendable, but when it gets to the point of social anxiety or overactive self-inhibition, I think it starts to do you a disservice. 🙂

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