instance stuff 

Sorry about all the goofy downtime, I had to fix the emails, and thought I'd quickly increase the character limit while I was doing that

It was not quick

But, now we have a bigger character limit, and have updated to the latest version of Mastodon. I'm attempting to make the character limit work outside of the browser, like in apps and stuff, but this is more difficult than I thought it would be 🤷

Second reminder post about moving my account over to @HabitEXE

This account is going to be for triggerphra.se instance news only, all the good posts are going to be on my new account. So, unless you're interested in hearing about downtime and maintenance and stuff, you should follow the other account instead

Might boost this once at the end of the day, and make a pinned post eventually, but otherwise this should be the last time I bug you about this

Second reminder post about moving my account over to @HabitEXE

This account is going to be for triggerphra.se instance news only, all the good posts are going to be on my new account. So, unless you're interested in hearing about downtime and maintenance and stuff, you should follow the other account instead

Might boost this once at the end of the day, and make a pinned post eventually, but otherwise this should be the last time I bug you about this

I'm moving my account over to @HabitEXE ! This one is gonna be for triggerphra.se admin stuff only, like, telling people about maintenance, things like that, so if you're on this instance, maybe keep following it

Otherwise, all the fun stuff is over at my new account. You should definitely keep up with me there instead, if you're interested

I'm not migrating follows or followers, for a couple of reasons, so I'll try and keep up reminders here without floodung anyone's tl

I'm moving my account over to @HabitEXE ! This one is gonna be for triggerphra.se admin stuff only, like, telling people about maintenance, things like that, so if you're on this instance, maybe keep following it

Otherwise, all the fun stuff is over at my new account. You should definitely keep up with me there instead, if you're interested

I'm not migrating follows or followers, for a couple of reasons, so I'll try and keep up reminders here without floodung anyone's tl

Heads up, changing all my profile stuff to gear up for changing @

I wasn't going to import followers, cause there's a lot of auto follow accounts from being an instance admin I wanna clear out, so I'll try and make a couple of posts to be clear and stuff

demon/angel kink idea 

@FromtheAbyss 'Partner-focused' does not necessarily mean 'deferential'. A toppy angel might be inclined to take the initiative, but they'll do so to please their partner.

Plus, I imagine them getting around a lot of situations like that through upfront negotiation.

Probably going to move my account over to a new @ shortly, using my old username is starting to bug me, and it means there's a separate account for default follow admin stuff. I might post here a couple of times about it just so people know and stuff, but this account isn't gonna do you much good, unless you're in the triggerphra.se instance specifically, once I have everything moved over

d/s, praise kink 

@drowsydawg This is more like, saying nice things, giving the dom approval and enthusiastic consent, etc.

re: re: re: d/s dynamics, healthy vs. toxic relationships // 

this thread brought to you in large part by a conversation I witnessed the other day, which went something like

Alice: …and now I miss submission, even though that was so toxic. How do I continue? What does healthy submission even look like?

Bob: A big part is having healthy boundaries…

Alice: wait what?

Bob: Boundaries. Even if you submit, you're still your own person. You can always say no; you don't have to do everything a dom wants.

alice: holy shit this changes everything

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my takeaway here being: there are always new people coming in, and everyone has a first time they hear about the basics. Education, onboarding, and outreach never stops. You can't assume that having a niche, "advanced" kink means someone has already had "basic" and "intermediate" training in safety and (healthy) community norms.

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demon/angel kink idea, meta, done 

That thread kinda got away from me and went places, sorry

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demon/angel kink idea, meta 

This fixes a bunch of things that have always bothered me about this whole sphere of kink, like;

- Corruption = sex = bad and evil (fuck that)
- Angels = no sex = good and pure (fuck that)
- Angels near-exclusively as subs to break, with little content of them staying angelic
- Demons as nebulously lustful (like, yeah, they wanna fuck, that's kinda the point, we get it)
- Allows for way more combinations than normal
- Also kinda separates sex from kink, which can help

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demon/angel kink idea, d/s, sex 

Subby demons are bratty, love conflict, and love being put in their place even more. Dommy ones treat their subs like toys, to be used and enjoyed, chained up and kept in place for easy access.

A subby angel is obedient, first and foremost, and much of the appeal of playing with one comes from pushing them outside of their stoicism. Dommy angels will negotiate and define your service to the fullest extent you'll allow them, shaping and perfecting your submission.

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demon/angel kink idea, sex 

This is independent from any bottom/top or sub/dom binary; bottoming as a demon means moaning, yelling, writhing and demanding more. Bottoming as an angel means following instructions, showing concern, putting in that extra bit of effort to please the top.

A toppy demon acts on pure impulse, pushing the bottom around. A toppy angel, however, is one of the most gentle and attentive lovers you could hope for, giving you *precisely* what you need.

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demon/angel kink idea, corruption/purification, sex 

'Corruption' isn't about uncharacteristic sin, it's about teaching someone how to embrace sensation, and lose themselves in the moment. Stripping away that angelic discipline and concern in favor of raw feeling and action.

'Purification', on the other hand, teaches unruly humans and demons about the pleasure that comes with following rules and structures. The vicarious joy you can get from pleasing someone else, and tending to their wants.

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demon/angel kink idea, corruption/purification, sex 

Theoretically, sex between a demon and an angel would be great. It usually is... once. They're usually extremely unused to each others' approach, and post-coital bickering often turns into ideological critique. They simply don't understand each other. So... they attempt to convince each other. Convert each other.

The process of purifying or corrupting someone is less about morality and more about showing each other a different perspective

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demon/angel kink idea, sex 

It varies in degrees, and it's not as though they're required to do one or the other, but;

Sex with a demon is often great; if it's something they're interested in, they'll know a lot of things, but it's geared towards them, and their preferences. It'll be great, but you might not feel... present.

With an angel, it'll be harder to find someone dedicated to sex, but if they are... their full attention would get overwhellming if they weren't watching you so closely.

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demon/angel kink idea 

Demon vs angel kink stuff, but rather than the dull evil / good binary, they oppose each other in whether they are selfish or selfless in bed

Demons focus on their own pleasure, using partners to get off and possibly not even returning the favor. They're often wild and inconsiderate in bed, acting on hedonistic impulse.

Angels, conversely, focus on their partners, enjoying making them squirm and moan. They can be quite disciplined, but do like sex, and are very caring

vague tech kink 

Easy to play with, but not in a slutty way, more in a 'designed for accessibility' way

d/s kink, non-con, personal ad goof 

"Placid, affectionate, deeply submissive kink fic deuteragonist seeks combative, resisting kink fic protagonist to sway into their Owner's service via post-domination comfort and repeated demonstrations of the pleasures of submission."

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