Triggerphra.se Updates @BunnieEXE@mastodon.triggerphra.se

I also manage a hypnokink Discord for queer folks. Things run differently to most communities, in that we focus on;
- Safety; in using the server, and in how we talk about play
- Democracy; no structural decisions are made without public discussion
- Comfort; no mandatory intros / roles / etc.

We talk shop a lot, so it's great for beginners, and we've just started up matchmaking. If you're interested, check it out;

https://discord.gg/V9HeqfT

I've updated the rules again. There's a new rule on harassment, which boils down to 'respect people who don't want to talk to you', and these things are now explicitly included in banned content:

- Depicting children for sex or kink purposes.
- Nazi bullshit.
- Content shared without the consent of the creator.

Obviously the first two were never permitted, but the third is an issue that's bugged me lately in other hypnosis spaces, and has happened here once before.

Nothing's happened locally to warrant these changes, I've just been looking at other Mastodon instances' rules to see where ours are lacking. As always, let me know if there's any issues.

Apologies for all the weird downtime, my bf is attempting to switch the server from the Debian I had it on to Ubuntu, and it is going very poorly. I'm currently feeling the kind of validation that I imagine drives people to argue about Linux on the internet.

On the plus side, I finally got the raised character limit working on mobile. I'm not sure what apps it'll work on, so let me know if it doesn't on yours, and I'll see what I can do

Bf wants to upgrade the server. We'll be shuffling things around and stuff so this instance will be down for a bit later today. As always, shouldn't take too long

Mastodon has a built-in content warning feature. When making a post, you can click the 'CW' button to add a few words that will be shown before someone sees at your post. If your posts are going to be on the local or federated timelines ('public' posts), they'll be seen in places where kinky or sexual content might not be expected. Content warnings allow your posts to be visible across the fediverse, without causing discomfort for people who don't want to see the topics you're posting about.

There is no 'best practice' for putting content warnings on posts, so it's good etiquette to consider requests from people who'd like to follow you. However, on this instance, there are a couple of things you're required to include in content warnings, if you're posting about them:

- A 'kink' CW for any kink content. You may want to be more specific, e.g. 'hypno kink' for posts about hypnosis kink, or 'bondage, d/s kink'.
- 'sex' for any content involving the act of sex, or 'genitals' for depictions or descriptions thereof.
- Flashing images (like spirals) that may cause problems for people with 'photosensitivity' issues.
- Common phobias like 'snakes' or 'spiders'.

If you're unsure of whether or not a post needs a content warning, being cautious and including a couple of words that touch on the major points is usually a safe bet.

Relatedly, I'm probably going to give our rules another pass, specifically to encourage people to put content warnings on their posts. There haven't been any issues yet, but posts from here are getting around, and I think it would be a good thing to encourage.

Hey all, @HairyHypnotist and co. have set up a new instance at https://mastodon.hypnoguys.com , that's more suitable and better federated for their needs. If you're more exclusively interested in the intersection of hypnosis and masculinity, you should take a look.

Sorry about all the goofy downtime, I had to fix the emails, and thought I'd quickly increase the character limit while I was doing that

It was not quick

But, now we have a bigger character limit, and have updated to the latest version of Mastodon. I'm attempting to make the character limit work outside of the browser, like in apps and stuff, but this is more difficult than I thought it would be 🤷

Second reminder post about moving my account over to @HabitEXE

This account is going to be for triggerphra.se instance news only, all the good posts are going to be on my new account. So, unless you're interested in hearing about downtime and maintenance and stuff, you should follow the other account instead

Might boost this once at the end of the day, and make a pinned post eventually, but otherwise this should be the last time I bug you about this

I'm moving my account over to @HabitEXE ! This one is gonna be for triggerphra.se admin stuff only, like, telling people about maintenance, things like that, so if you're on this instance, maybe keep following it

Otherwise, all the fun stuff is over at my new account. You should definitely keep up with me there instead, if you're interested

I'm not migrating follows or followers, for a couple of reasons, so I'll try and keep up reminders here without floodung anyone's tl

Heads up, changing all my profile stuff to gear up for changing @

I wasn't going to import followers, cause there's a lot of auto follow accounts from being an instance admin I wanna clear out, so I'll try and make a couple of posts to be clear and stuff

Probably going to move my account over to a new @ shortly, using my old username is starting to bug me, and it means there's a separate account for default follow admin stuff. I might post here a couple of times about it just so people know and stuff, but this account isn't gonna do you much good, unless you're in the triggerphra.se instance specifically, once I have everything moved over

That thread kinda got away from me and went places, sorry

This fixes a bunch of things that have always bothered me about this whole sphere of kink, like;

- Corruption = sex = bad and evil (fuck that)
- Angels = no sex = good and pure (fuck that)
- Angels near-exclusively as subs to break, with little content of them staying angelic
- Demons as nebulously lustful (like, yeah, they wanna fuck, that's kinda the point, we get it)
- Allows for way more combinations than normal
- Also kinda separates sex from kink, which can help

Subby demons are bratty, love conflict, and love being put in their place even more. Dommy ones treat their subs like toys, to be used and enjoyed, chained up and kept in place for easy access.

A subby angel is obedient, first and foremost, and much of the appeal of playing with one comes from pushing them outside of their stoicism. Dommy angels will negotiate and define your service to the fullest extent you'll allow them, shaping and perfecting your submission.

This is independent from any bottom/top or sub/dom binary; bottoming as a demon means moaning, yelling, writhing and demanding more. Bottoming as an angel means following instructions, showing concern, putting in that extra bit of effort to please the top.

A toppy demon acts on pure impulse, pushing the bottom around. A toppy angel, however, is one of the most gentle and attentive lovers you could hope for, giving you *precisely* what you need.

'Corruption' isn't about uncharacteristic sin, it's about teaching someone how to embrace sensation, and lose themselves in the moment. Stripping away that angelic discipline and concern in favor of raw feeling and action.

'Purification', on the other hand, teaches unruly humans and demons about the pleasure that comes with following rules and structures. The vicarious joy you can get from pleasing someone else, and tending to their wants.

Theoretically, sex between a demon and an angel would be great. It usually is... once. They're usually extremely unused to each others' approach, and post-coital bickering often turns into ideological critique. They simply don't understand each other. So... they attempt to convince each other. Convert each other.

The process of purifying or corrupting someone is less about morality and more about showing each other a different perspective